Different attitudes and cultures
In Sweden and Denmark, sexual exploration is generally seen simply as part of growing up and finding one’s way to adulthood, and might not hold the same connotations as it would in other cultures, including the U.S.
The ministry of education dedicates a week each year where all school children participate in age-appropriate sex education. Scandinavian teenagers commonly have their partner sleep over with the approval of their parents. DIS students are commonly surprised when their host sibling’s partner joins the family for breakfast in the morning after sleeping over, or when their college-aged peers discuss sex very openly. In adulthood, it is common for romantic couples to live together and have children without being married.
Consent
The concept of consent may also be different. In the U.S., college students learn that consent means a very clear, enthusiastic ‘yes.’ In Scandinavia, a discrepancy sometimes exists between cultural norms and law. Consent may be commonly implied when you agree to go home with someone and engage in an act of a sexual nature. While you can, of course, say no at any point in a sexual encounter, most young Scandinavians would find it odd to go home with someone they just met at a bar who doesn’t intend to have sex. Being conscious of these intercultural differences, as well as explicitly communicating your own intentions, is important when navigating sexual relationships abroad. Legally, the concept of consent in Denmark and Sweden is similar to that of the United States, and sex without explicit consent is criminalized.
Before you arrive in Scandinavia
Be sure to protect your own health as well as others by visiting your doctor, scheduling a sexual health check-up, and filling necessary contraceptive prescriptions. Find our resource on bringing medication to Scandinavia below.
Accessing sexual healthcare during your time abroad
We generally advise that you bring contraception from home to assure you have access to what you are used to. However, you can find condoms at all convenience and grocery stores, and the ‘morning after pill’ and pregnancy tests are generally available at pharmacies. These items are frequently behind the counter, but do not be embarrassed to ask for them. STD testing is available through several drop in clinics or you can contact a general practitioner.
Safety tips
- Try to avoid going out alone. Pairs or small groups can watch out for one another
- Before you go out, make a plan for how you will get home. Travel home with your friends when possible, and don’t leave a friend behind
- If you see a friend in a compromising situation, help them if you can do so safely, or ask for assistance from a bartender or the police
- Watch your drink and don’t accept a drink from a stranger. If someone wants to buy you a drink, take it directly from the bartender
- If you do go home with someone, have an open and direct discussion about your intentions and limits. If you are not sure what they want, you must ask. Don’t guess and risk harming them or committing a crime.
